Yes, I’m talking about myself. Let’s just work off that premise for awhile.
This may come as a shock to some of you, but not every player you play with is A+. Yes, I know, just let that sink in a moment.
But the worst thing I’ve seen – worse than the worst-est player ever, is a good player who basically shuts down because they just knoowww that there’s no point to really trying. So instead of a half decent game you get:
- A under-performing player who feels guilty/frustrated
- A good player who keeps shaking their head and looking out at the other team like “well, I’m sorry, just make it quick”
- A typical player (the third on the team) who is trying to remember what all the songs in The Little Mermaid were
and that’s just not good enough, friends.
So you’ve got someone on your team who has, at best, a love of the sport (and not much else). Chances are you aren’t in a tourney with this person, you’re in pickup. Let that be your first lesson: This game doesn’t matter in any way, shape, or form. You are playing for the joy of playing – and that’s what your under-performing player has in spades. So just stop thinking that you have to put the pressure on.
Also consider this: everybody, no-matter how you think of them, as at least one inherent ability on the court. Maybe it’s disrupting plays or maybe it’s calling out positions of other players – hell, maybe it’s just hitting the ball out of play. Find the player’s strength and let them use it. This boosts their confidence and also their ability to help you out. Read more